Belakangan aku memikirkan mengenai tanggung jawab yang dibawa oleh setiap orang tentang apa yang dikatakan, dituliskannya, dibuatnya melalui berbagai media dan “menginspirasi” orang lain.
Misalnya ada pasangan muda mudi yang sedang berpacaran di luar sana, yang terinspirasi untuk melakukan hal yang sama seperti yang dituliskan pada novel atau blog yang baru saja dibacanya karena dia merasa hal itu romantis:
“we’re kissed each other under the rain”.
Dosakah sang penulis?
Misal ada seorang perempuan yang mengenakan gaun yang mengumbar daerah-daerah yang seharusnya ditutupi, maka apakah sang designer, sang penjual, juga memikul tanggung jawab atasnya?
Misal aku menulis di twitter atau facebook:
“Why some cute guys decide to be a gay?”
dan hal ini menginspirasi pria-pria di luar sana menjadi gay hanya untuk membuat mereka merasa “cute” (jika hal ini terjadi, I’m in a big trouble >.<).
Misal, mas James Blunt nulis lirik lagu:
I’ve kissed your lips and held your head.
Shared your dreams and shared your bed.
I know you well, I know your smell.
I’ve been addicted to you.
Hal ini tidak akan menjadi masalah untuk yang telah menikah. Tapi jika yang terinspirasi masih lajang? Apa Mas James juga menanggung dosa atas lirik lagunya yang menginpirasi?
Misal ada seseorang perempuan bunuh diri setelah diejek gendut oleh temannya, padahal mungkin saja dia sudah mati-matian berusaha menurunkan berat badannya. Seberapa besarkah tanggung jawab orang yang mengejeknya tadi atas hilangnya nyawa perempuan tersebut?
From this thing, I learned that I have responsibility for everything I do. So, I have to be more careful.
RIZKA ZAKIYAH[9:21 AM]:
jangankan buku, kata2 dan tulisan ngasal aja itu jg tanggung jawab kita
bionya tmnku di twit masa
be responsible with ur tweet
Sometimes small and trivial things bring great responsibility.
I’m not talking about my job, I want to talk about my experience.
I thought back about my journey in the pass. I believe that everyone has their own tough time, the hard part to deal with. I’m a person who good in giving encouragement for myself, but I also had several hard times when I felt tired about something. When I did much to make things right but everything seemed wrong, when I walked so far and my skin burned by the sun but I felt further away from my direction and met a stalemate, they just led me to emptiness, despair.
The best thing that I’ve ever done was surrender. God is the best place to ask, to go back, to rely on, everything.
Many times I asked to myself, since I’m not a devout and religious person, the one who cross line often, will God listen to my prayer? Will Him help me and give me way out?
And I realized, I did something wrong.
God is like what we think about Him..
So when I meet tough time, I’ll come to Him and make an honest confession,
God, I know I’m not a devout one. I’m not the one who always think about You. I’m the one who often broke Your rules. But I don’t have better place than You. Here I’m, asking for help, Your affection. I just want to say something, I’m surrendering. Please forgive me for every bad thing I’ve done. There’s nothing I can do here to make things better than surrender to You.
Soon after that I’ll feel better, my burden is reduced.
Sometimes confession about my limitations as a human being, when the reality does not go as planned even though I’ve tried so hard to keep it on the line, gives me the best solution: surrender, resignation.
God bless my new playlist ;).
At the beginning of this week, I’ve decided to change my playlist and put some new songs (not exactly new, just songs that I never heard before). For me, sometimes the songs do between brighten your day or make it gloomy as well.
And here, because I’m not kind of person who like to keep a good thing by myself, I’d like to share this song with you ^^.
Hopefully this can be a warm chum for us, as well as Joshua Radin himself (it warms me inside while raining outside 🙂 ).
Some kind of magic happens late at night
When the moon smiles down on me
And bathes me in it’s light
I fell asleep beneath you in the tall blades of grass
When I woke the world was new, I never had to ask
It’s a brand new day
The sun is shinning
It’s a brand new day
For the first time in such a long long time
I know I’ll be ok
Most kind of stories save the best part for last
Most stories have a hero who finds
You make your past your passed
Ya you make your past your passed
It’s a brand new day
The sun is shinning
It’s a brand new day
For the first time in such a long long time
I know I’ll be ok
This cycle never ends
You gotta fall in order to mend
And it’s a brand new day
It’s a brand new day
For the first time in such a long long time
I know I’ll be ok
This post is a side effect from woke up earlier, pursued answers to questions that were filled my brain. Yap, thanks to God for having created Maya Angelou ;).
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE… enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .. a youth she’s content to leave behind….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .. a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …. a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … a feeling of control over her destiny…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW… how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW… how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship… Baca selebihnya »
I believe if everyone can rewind their memories about something happened when they hear certain songs. If I could I would record every sweet moment including its soundtrack in my head. So when I miss it I just need to play the song, and voila I’m in the frame of the sweet moment that I ever had.
When I decided to play my playlist in shuffle mode, suddenly Mungkinkah by Stinky was heard from my lovely mp3 player. And soon I went back to 1997, when me and my family moved to Java after we spent years for a lovely journey in Singkawang. Anyway, talking about Stinky can’t be separated from its vocalist: Andre Taulani. I like the form of his teeth, it’s rare ^^.
The 2nd song is Freshman by The Verve Pipe or Boyce Avenue (cover). This song reminds me when I watched Paranormal Activity with Eriek and Chocky in Blitz Megaplex – Grand Indonesia. It completed the creepy memories about that day, because I watched a strange movie, with those (weird but) quite nice guys ^^V, we bought Sour Sally, and we went there one or two days after an accident that killed a visitor happened.
Still with Freshman, I have bittersweet memory that I couldn’t explain. Sometimes, you just can feel something without having the ability to explain what it is – true story. Also, this song was played after me and Kakluk watched Alice in Wonderland 3D in Blitz – GI when she spent her holiday in Jakarta. Hoo, masnya ganteng looh :p
The 3rd is Mad by Ne-yo. This song, I’ve played it repeatedly when me and my friend in Netherlands spent countless hours to share stories, laughter, pain and shoulder. She kept saying “it’s hard to believe that someone who is as crazy as I am exists out there” when she started talking to me and she found my craziness quite on the same track with hers.
The 4th song is I See You by Leona Lewis. It happened and we drew nice things there.
And I have much more, but I can’t keep writing because it’s already near to 12 pm and I want to finish my homework of reading books.
After all, things change so do the people. But memories are still the same, no more no less. Sometimes little thing can play big role in our life and can leave a big hole too.
“Maybe mistakes are what make our fate… without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn’t fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. After all, things change, so do cities, people come into your life and they go. But it’s comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart… and if you’re very lucky, a plane ride away” -Sex and The City-
Things that amaze me when I visited Phuket and could be never happen here were:
People around there used horn rarely. It made the city so peaceful.
They completely applied “queue” term. When I had to use toilet, people who came first stood in a line and not in front of each door in the toilet. If a door opened, then the first person in queue would get her turn.
I can say that people here use horn excessively. Why you don’t try to be patient just for a bit? It drives me crazy and mad every time I hear people pressing their horn repeatedly. It makes me want to hit them with baseball stick >_<.
Hey, smokers, this city isn’t yours! How could you throw your cigarette ash out of your window innocently? Do you ever think about sin that you’ve made for being a selfish person and harm others?
And the last one is thing that happen most of the time when I am in Jakarta. I keep asking myself, why it’s hard to trust people there? and I feel bad about this, honestly. I know it’s not nice, but I can’t restrain my head for thinking something bad could happen if I don’t keep my eyes open (except if I’m in a bus, I sleep often).
Soon after I saw the title, I was a better mom before I had kids, I clicked and read this post. Actually, from the title I can imagine about the things to say by the author. I already have plans for (future) my children and this post makes me worry about what if I ruin my plans. But this makes me realize, it wont be easy to raise children.
Before I had children I was a great mom.
When my husband and I decided that we were going to start a family I was confident that I would be a “great mom”. I naively felt that I had the credentials to back up my bold assumption. After all I hold a university degree that includes many courses in child development and psychology and after graduating from my undergrad, I went on and completed my teaching degree with emphasis on grades kindergarten to six.
I have spent hours reading books on how the mind of a child works. I have researched papers about the inner workings of a child’s psyche. I used to be current on the research about TV watching and intelligence, which foods were toxic and how to cultivate well rounded, thoughtful individuals.
I think back to those cocky days, when my patience was intact and sleep deprivation meant pulling one all-nighter and having to work in the morning.
For those with kids: I don’t have to explain how my preconceptions about what life with kids would be like and the world as I knew it simultaneously shattered after my children were born.
For those of you without kids (who just read over this list with the same bravado that I once had): read my top ten “Before I Had Kids” list and memorize it. It will come back to haunt you.
Before I had kids I was . . .
Never going to let my kids sleep in my bed.
Never going to allow the T.V. to be on while we ate meals.
Never going to bribe my children to be on their best behaviour.
Never going to applaud/cheer when my child peed in the toilet.
Never going to allow my kids to have a dirty face, dirty hands or wear dirty clothes in public.
Never going to leave the house looking like a disheveled mess (i.e. hair a mess, track pants, no make-up, etc.)
Never going to use the T.V. as a babysitter so I could: a) have a shower b) talk on the phone c) do anything else for myself.
Never going to lose my cool during a temper tantrum.
Never going to feed my children anything less than the healthiest, most organic, delicious food.
10. Never going to give them a B.S. answer to any of their questions, no matter how challenging the answer
would be, no matter how uncomfortable I would be, no matter how long the conversation needed to go on.
To all of you mothers and fathers, what are some of the things you promised you would never do as a parent that you have found yourself doing since having children?
I want to write down things that make my brain space is almost full *crossing fingers*, not really full indeed I just want to write something here ^^. Well, when I think about a thing, most of the times I want to post it here because someday I can read it again. But I usually postpone it because of some reasons, and then I’ll lose it.
Last night, I read this blog at a glance from its first post. Undoubted, it evoked memories from their peaceful grave. I realize I’ve passed many hard times, but I don’t see any purpose for holding the past but learning and taking its goodness to brighten my way ahead.
“Time will heal” is not a gibberish. The first thing I have to do when healing is reconciles my brain with my heart. I’ll be in suffer if I can’t make peace between both of them, because many times they’ve found walk in an opposite directions. How could my feet walk properly if they’re heading to different path?
I love myself. No matter what people say, they just able to show us about the flaws, we need to feel comfortable with it. Take good advices from them, but do not ever let anything bad traps you in a big pit of suffering. When they say you look fat, have dark skin, pimpled, say thanks because they pay attention to you ;). We’re not born to meet the satisfaction of others. If we don’t love and cheer ourselves, who else?
Do something good and be your self. If you think you’re not smart, why you don’t start opening book and learning? If you think you’re not attractive, why you don’t try to smile and live your bright side? Sometimes whenever you don’t know, some people out there adore you and you’ve inspired them ^^. Hard to believe, eh? I don’t think so :p
Don’t afraid to fail. If you hold your fear, you’ll never see the beauty of life and have rapturous stories for your children. Color of this world depends on the color you choose.
If you in sorrow and want to cry, and the most fun thing couldn’t be the cure, let it out till your heart feels lighter. God has been being so great, He created tears for reasons. So, nothing wrong if we use it occasionally ;).
If we keep doing not commendable things, it’s not a bad idea if we start remembering that we have an eternal life after this stopover.
When I go back from office to my boarding house in Saturday night, I wonder why some girls doesn’t mind if their boyfriend ask them to talk at the edge of football field. If we don’t respect our self, then others would not.
Sometimes we need to be spontaneous. The silliest thing that I ever did is the most memorable. You wont know the present, until you open the box ^^.
I am kind of person who difficult to remember names. When I watch movies or tv series, I don’t do please-remember-all-names-of-character. This doesn’t mean I don’t focus on the stories, I just don’t get used to doing things to remember. Actually, I do not know many names of actors and actress ^ ^.
Therefore, I only have countable names of celebrities in my head. If I like them, I would ask for help from google to display multiple stories about them and sometimes I use their last name and add it to my name for makes some fun with my friends. For example when I fell in love with Lifehouse songs and know that Jason Wade (lead singer) is also a songwriter, I sent greeting to my friends like this:
Safitri Wade says good morning and have a nice working day ^^
Fun enough for me :p.
As far as I remember, I ever used 3 lovely last names. And proudly I presents:
1. Jason Wade
Charming and religious one
He’s the one behind religious and soothing lyrics of Lifehouse. When I read the lyrics sometimes I find out that it’s like song for God, to show his feeling how much he puts his trust in God.
I am hanging on every word you say
And even if you don’t want to speak tonight
That’s alright, alright with me
‘Cause I want nothing more than to sit
Outside Heaven’s door and listen to you breathing
Is where I want to be -Breathing-
Find Me Here
Speak To Me
I want to feel you
I need to hear you
You are the light
That’s leading me
To the place where I find peace again.
You are the strength, that keeps me walking.
You are the hope, that keeps me trusting.
You are the light to my soul.
You are my purpose…you’re everything. -Everything-
Yah, undoubted he’s adorable in his way.
2. Channing Tatum
The cool and attractive one
I knew him first time from his role in Step Up 1. There, he didn’t talk much but his smiles melted heart away.
In 2006, Tatum met Jenna Dewan on the set of Step Up. They began dating shortly after filming had finished. The couple became engaged in early September 2008 in Maui, Hawaii. On Saturday, July 11, 2009, they were married on the grounds of Church Estates Vineyards in Malibu, California. -Wikipedia-
3. Wentworth Miller
The brilliant brain.
Thanks to my boss for having put me on the BD team, because that place where I met Wentworth Miller several times a week from Prison Break Season 1 to Season 4 :grin:. I love him for his role as smart, brilliant, cute, kind and lovable Michael Scofield in Prison Break.
He’s 38 yo but still attractive (at least in my eyes). He graduated from Princeton with a degree in English. His father is African-American, Somalian, Jamaican, British, German and part Cherokee; his mother is Russian, French, Syrian, and Lebanese (this is the secret recipe handsomeness of his face, noted).
He is a 1990 graduate of Quaker Valley High, Miller moved to Sewickley Heights for his senior year of high school with his father, Wentworth Earl Miller II. His mother Joy Marie Palm, is a Special Education Teacher. His dad is a former Brooklyn assistant district attorney, a Lawyer and a graduate of Yale. He has two younger sisters, Gillian and Leigh. Gillian is studying to get her PHD in Massachusetts and Leigh is in Law School in Virginia.
Wentworth describes himself as a very private person who likes to spend time just relaxing at home when he’s not working. He enjoys swimming, reading, taking naps as well as going to different restaurants every week.
Here are his personal quotes:
You might look at my CV and see I’ve had 12 jobs, but I’ve been to over 450 auditions so I’ve heard ‘no’ a lot more than I’ve heard ‘yes’. So if I go in looking only to meet my own standards, then that will make taking that rejection a little bit easier. And when I do get that job it will seem like icing on the cake.
My experience is that I find myself having to constantly define myself to others, day-in, day-out. The quote that’s helped me the most through that is from Toni Morrison‘s “Beloved” where she says, “Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined” – so I find myself defining myself for other people lest I be defined by others and stuck into some box where I don’t particularly belong.
I’m kind of a dork. I don’t have much game. I’m not particularly comfortable in bars or clubs. I much prefer being home playing Scrabble, having dinner with a couple friends, going to see a movie, or losing a whole weekend to Season 14 of “Law & Order” (1990) or “The Simpsons” (1989).
Taken from imdb.com.
Yeah, how can I don’t love him? ^^. I think from them I got a lesson: I like or love guys who don’t talk much, don’t boast around, smart, and funny.
Hari sabtu kemarin 2010.10.02 aku dan Elly tour ke 3 kota di Jawa Timur: Surabaya, Gresik dan Bojonegoro. Berangkat dari Cikarang menggunakan bus DAMRI yang ke bandara jam 5 pagi, karena kami ingin menghadiri acara akad nikah dari anggota 3G yang lain yakni Elys. Kakluk yang dari Bali pun dateng (sayangnya, dia tidak bisa menyabotase 3 bule untuk menemani kami :p).
Hal yang dapat disimpulkan dari perjalanan kemarin adalah:
Buseeet, Bojonegoro jauuuuh :lol:. Waktu yang diperlukan untuk tiap perjalanan Cikarang-Bojonegoro atau Bojonegoro-Cikarang (Jakarta-Surabaya dan sebaliknya menggunakan pesawat, termasuk waktu tunggu, ngetem, dsb) adalah 11 jam. WOW!
Kalau dari Bungur dan mau ke terminal Osowilangun, naiklah bus P8 yang via tol Panjang untuk menghemat waktu.
Dari bandara Juanda ke terminal Bungur bisa naik bus DAMRI dan cukup membayar Rp 15.000.
Di Bojonegoro ga ada taksi.
Pernikahan pertama dari 3Gers ini seketika membawa euphoria dan kenangan jama-jaman kami masih duduk di bangku kuliah. Sejak dulu ketika aku, Elly dan Kakluk harus mengerjakan tugas dan menginap di kosannya Elys, atau ketika kami hanya mengadakan acara menginap hanya untuk ngobrol atau have fun, ramalan siapa yang akan menikah duluan pun sering tertuju pada Elys. And it happened ;). We’re happy for you, pal ^^.
She didn’t through the way easily, ada nangis-nangisnya yang pasti ^^V ketika harus menghadapi pilihan-pilihan. But we decide our own destiny, choose and live with it. Karena seperti kata Elly, kita hanya perlu mencari pasangan yang kompatibel dengan diri kita *tsaaah*.
Mengenang jaman-jaman kuliah memang menyenangkan dan gada habisnya. We had our love stories, mengagumi para dosen (yang sayangnya sudah beranak istri :lol:), tempat makan favorite, the silly and stupid but awesome things that we did :p, dan masih banyak lagi. Kakluk mengidolakan dosen yang sekarang sedang di Aussie untuk menjalani pendidikan S3nya, dan aku tentu saja mengidolakan kedua dosen pembimbing skripsiku *evil laughs* yang salah satunya sedang menyelesaikan S2 di Jerman.
Dulu (dan mungkin sampai sekarang), kami masih aja sering rebutan tanggal cantik. “Heyy, tanggal ini uda aku pesan. Kamu pake tanggal yang lain aja“, tentu saja itu tanggal yang dipilih untuk tanggal pernikahan :p. Ada yang 101010, ada yang pengen pake angka biner *lirik Kakluk* dan terciptalah 010111 (karena kalo mau pake 101010 udah nyaris ga mungkin :p), ato ada juga yang 091011 ihihi, yang jelas angka cantik dikantongi dulu walaupun sang partner masih dalam perjalan kemari.
Oh ya, ada 1 hal yang bikin kami ga berhenti tertawa adalah ketika aku menginap di rumah Elys kemarin dan aku dipinjami kaosnya. Di kaos itu ada sablonan foto Elys yang ternyata itu adalah kado yang pernah diberikan oleh salah satu fans nya :lol:. Love makes someone more creative, right?.
I love for having you pals ^^. Dan siapapun diantrian berikutnya, we’ll come to your wedding (or my wed, who knows? 😉 ).
Foto akan diupload menyusul, karena belum dapat filenya dari Elly hehehe.
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