Pria-Pria Yang Akan Aku Jauhi

Maaf bukan bermaksud menyindir ato melecehkan, tapi aku memang orang yang perlu memastikan kenyamananku dalam berhubungan dengan orang lain. Jika aku merasa nyaman dengan seseorang, maka aku akan tetap berhubungan baik dengan orang itu. Begitu juga sebaliknya, secara otomatis aku langsung menarik diri dan akan seminim mungkin berinteraksi dengannya.

Aku memang suka mengamati orang lain dan reaksiku ketika berinteraksi. Aku adalah manusia ekstrovert yang ga jarang cepat akrab dengan orang yang sama sekali belum aku kenal sebelumnya.

Aku punya beberapa orang teman, mereka adalah orang yang sama sekali belum pernah aku temui, namun kedekatan kami seperti orang yang saling mengenal dekat sebelumnya. Mungkin lebih akrab dari orang-orang yang bisa aku temui setiap hari. Aku begitu karna aku merasa nyaman. That’s all.

Ada beberapa sifat, terutama dari pria, yang bisa bikin aku ilfeel dan merasa malas untuk berinteraksi dengannya. Dan hal ini tidak berkaitan sama sekali dengan racism.

  1. Suka bertanya.

    Yap, ini amat sangat bikin gerah yang luar biasa sekali. Aku ga suka aja kalo ada pria yang suka menanyakan hal-hal sepele terlebih lagi yang dikarenakan dia malas untuk mencari tau atau membaca buku petunjuk.

    I mean, kalo kamu masih ada di depan monitor dengan koneksi internet yang bagus, gampang aja kan untuk mendapatkan jawaban dari ketidaktauan itu. Bacalah dulu, coba cari tau dulu, kalo udah mentok baru tanya.

    Di mataku, pria itu harus smart, harus ada effort nya untuk mendapatkan sesuatu. Karna ketika dari hal-hal kecil aja dia ga bisa menghandle dengan baik, gimana ntar kalo udah jadi kepala rumah tangga? Masa ntar kalo anaknya tanya “ayah, siapa yang menemukan teori gravitasi?” dan si ayah cuma bisa menjawab “nanti ayah tanyakan pada ibumu”. Grrrrr….

    Lagian, bukankah pria akan merasa rendah diri dan ga suka kalo pasangannya ternyata “lebih” dari dia? Baca lebih lanjut

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Things That You Should Think About Before You Fall For A Foreigner

Lil bit weird? I don’t think so. I just post what i want, something that pass in my mind.

I wanna talk about this. Humm i think it’s a common thing, married to a foreigner and it will be nice to have cute-blue-green-shining-eyes-blesteran children indeed :lol:. But there are many things that you need to think about, before you decide to make a relationship with one of them.

Here we go, take a seat and be a nice reader ^^.

  1. Religion.
    For me, religion is the most important thing to build a household. I want my children grow up in a family which has a good religious circumstance. Husband not only becomes a leader for worldly things, but afterlife too. That’s why, it’s a must for my future couple has a same religion with me.
  2. Nationality.
    I don’t know much about this thing, but it will be another obstacle too. You must choose a nationality, yours or follow your couple. Think about this carefully, will you choose to be a foreigner at your own country and start to recognize your new national anthem and flag? But if you’re thinking this is not a big deal, go ahead to catch your love story dear ^^.

    The Red White

  3. Place to live.
    Ya i think there’s no place as nice as home, no matter how lovely the new place is. If you’re living abroad for a reason or duty, there will be a time that you’ll awfully miss anything that remind you with your hometown and smell of the wet soil ^^. Baca lebih lanjut

A Walk To Remember #1

I love documenting moments, because someday i’ll read this blog again and put a smile on my face while remembering the past.

This time i’d like to write down a short story from my dinner with Mbak Tiar, she treated me frankly ^^. I got a treat because i won the bet she made.

I ever said to her “Why, why i cant stop talking though i’ve to talk alone? “. And suddenly, maybe that time she felt bored and needed someone to cheer up the day, she said that she wants to make a deal with me. The deal was if i can keep shutting my mouth up for 1 hour, then she’ll treat me. Though i felt doubt to take the deal initially, i won the deal finally ^^. Baca lebih lanjut

To All Single Ladies

God always knows the way to make me feel happy and blushed ^^.

Jadi hari ini tadi emang ada ujan di luar, tapi ga pake ada angin. Tiba-tiba seorang seniorku di kampus dulu menyapaku di ym. Ya itungannya dulu akrab pas trakhir-trakhir ngurus birokrasi sidang skripsi dan wisudaan. Udah lama banget ga saling menyapa di ym walo sama-sama sering online, ya mungkin karna ga satu lingkungan kerjaan, jadinya kami sibuk dengan aktivitas masing-masing.

He said hallo. Dan seperti kebiasaan perbincangan orang umur 24++ dia menanyakan statusku “udah married?”. Yoolo, kenapa ya selalu ke situ? Masih banyak hal menarik loh yang bisa ditanyakan padaku selain marriage thing ^^. Ya aku menjawab dengan jujur ” i have no idea about marriage”. Bukan berarti ga mo nikah ya booo tapi karna emang fokusku belum ke situ dan belum ada lawan maennya juga hihihi.

Obrolan berlanjut ke masalah kerjaan, beberapa lelucon dan sesi “i’ll let you know what i think about you”. Si mas ini uda punya calon istri, jadi apa yang dia katakan pastinya bukan gombalan semata, tapi lebih ke kejujuran yang baru diungkapkan sekarang mwahahah. And trust me, si mas ini memiliki selera yang bagus :lol:. Baca lebih lanjut

Miss Independent

For me, she’s so adorable, a miss independent ^^. Yap, emang aku mengambil tema ini dari lagunya Ne-Yo dengan judul yang sama.

Miss independent, seorang feminiskah ato seorang mandiri? Tapi kali ini aku tidak akan membicarakan mengenai feminisme, karna aku sedang dalam proses mempelajari teorinya. I need time ^^.

Secara subjektif, im so so so adoring perempuan yang mandiri. Mandiri di sini bisa dibilang dia punya tujuan, prinsip, mengendalikan hidupnya termasuk masalah finansial dan cita-citanya, smart, tough, sejauh dia bisa mengerjakan sesuatunya sendiri maka dia akan menyelesaikannya by herself. Bukan berarti dia ga butuh laki-laki ya, aku sedang membicarakan hal yang berbeda ^^.

Kadang aku suka gerah sendiri kalo pas lagi jalan dan ngeliat ada cowo yang bawa tas cewe (ngertikan maksudku mengenai tas cewe?), sementara si cewe jalan petentang-petenteng windows shopping. Iya kalo itu tas koper yang segede gaban, yang berat ato gimana, okelah. Lagian ketika nanti kita menjadi istri, kita juga harus menjaga kehormatan suami bukan? Apalagi kalau di depan umum.

I am really thankful to Kartini yang telah mengantarkan perempuan abad 21 sampai ke titik “persamaan derajat”, di mana perempuan tidak hanya menjadi warga kelas dua yang keberadaannya kurang diperhitungkan.

Sementara ini doang yang mau aku posting. Sebenernya masih banyak hal mengenai perempuan yang masih mengusik pikiranku dan rasa ingin tauku. Ntar de, dipostingan selanjutnya ^^. And, I love to be a woman.

Nyidam

Officially i said that “aku nyidam”. But wait, jangan mikir aneh-aneh! Aku tidak sedang mengandung anak siapapun. If you want to read this, just take a seat and be nice ^^.

Critanya hari ini tadi aku ke tukang “permak muka”, buat bersihin bolot-bolot debu yang nempel bekas maen liburan kemaren. Habis itu janjian ma kakakku buat nonton Sherlock Holmes di EX. Bagus loh filmnya ^^. Kelar nonton, nemenin dia beli sandal ke Sarinah. Baca lebih lanjut

Everything That I Do

Aku, adalah orang yang bisa dibilang menjunjung harga diri perempuan. Aku orang yang paling rese’ kalo pulang kerja ngeliat ada cewe yang mau diajak duduk di lapangan bola yang gelap, dingin, dan pastinya banyak nyamuknya. You deserve to get better dear, bukan hanya sekedar omong kosong di tempat yang jauh dari layak. If they want you, they will do some efforts to reach you. And if they dont, you know the answer.

Apapun, yang aku lakukan sekarang (dengan uangku tentunya), mulai dari beli baju, parfum, spa, facial ato apalah, aku lakukan untuk diriku sendiri bukan untuk menarik perhatian lawan jenis ato apa. Karna i deserve it. Aku pikir hal ini penting, mind set dalam melakukan sesuatu. Ketika kamu melakukan sacrifices, menguruskan badan misalnya, hanya untuk menarik perhatian seseorang, you’re totally wrong. Kenapa orang lain yang lebih berhak mendapatkan kebahagiaan dari diri kita, sementara kita harus mengabaikan kebahagiaan diri sendiri? :). Aku jarang ambil pusing kalo orang bilang aku gendut. Tapi kalo clana mulai sesek dan badan mulai ga nyaman dipandang saat make baju tertentu, aku baru pusing.

Since being single, i love myself more. Secara sapa lagi yang bisa lebih menyayangiku selain diriku sendiri ^^. Rasanya? Sangat menyenangkan. Pergi ke spa, facial, belanja, menghirup aroma tubuh sendiri yang wangi, nonton, jalan ke sana sini sama si ini dan si itu. Oh God, i love this ^^. Menciumi aroma sabun Cussons Milk Bath yang nempel dibadan sehabis mandi, hmmmhhh, i love it too. Lagian kalo kita nyaman dengan diri sendiri, bakal lebih pede bukan? ^^. Sebagai nilai tambahnya, orang bakal seneng kalo ada di dekat kita. Yap, karna aku pun penyuka orang (terutama pria) yang rapi, bersih dan wangi ^^ (karna kebanyakan cewe uda wangi hehehe).

It's true. Isnt it? ^^

Better in Time

Here we go, another my life-theme-song ^^.

It’s been the longest winter without you
I didn’t know where to turn to
See somehow I can’t forget you
After all that we’ve been through

Going coming
Thought I heard a knock
Who’s there no one
Thinking that I deserve it
Now I realize that I really didn’t know
If you didn’t notice you mean everything
Quickly I’m learning to love again
All that I know is I’mma be ok

[Chorus:]
Thought I couldn’t live without you
It’s gonna hurt when it heals too
It’ll all get better in time
Even though I really love you
I’m gonna smile cause I deserve to
It’ll all get better in time

I couldn’t turn on the TV
Without something there to remind me
Was it all that easy
To just put aside your feelings

If I’m dreaming don’t wanna laugh
Hurt my feelings but that’s the path
I’ll believe in
And I know time will heal it
If you didn’t notice boy you mean everything
Quickly I’m learning to love again
All I know is I’mma be ok

[Chorus:]
Thought I couldn’t live without you
It’s gonna hurt when it heals too
It’ll all get better in time
Even though I really love you
I’m gonna smile cause I deserve to
It’ll all get better in time

Since there’s no more you and me
It’s time I let you go
So I can be free
And live my life how it should be
No matter how hard it is I’ll be fine without you
Yes I will

Thought I couldn’t live without you
It’s gonna hurt when it heals too
It’ll all get better in time
Even though I really love you
I’m gonna smile cause I deserve to (yes I do)
It’ll all get better in time

The Things You Should Know If You Want To Steal My Attention

Judulnya bow, wahahahah manteb. Just for fun. This stuff can makes me know bout other sides of me and my clan :D.

Aries

Romance is something that no Aries can live without and the same goes for an Aries woman also. However, for her, not getting on without romance is not same as not being able to live without a man. In her heart, she will always be yearning for that someone special, thinking about him in the monsoon and that will be her idea of romance. She doesn’t need a real man for it. Aries female is the one who will do anything and everything herself, without needing any male help. One of her basic personality traits is total confidence in her abilities.

She has to lead, to be the first one to do anything. At times, her independence does not go well with the male ego. However, an Aries girl never wants a puppy for a lover or a husband. She seeks a man, but not the one who constantly chases her. The best way to woo her is to throw subtle hints, be a little detached and keep her wondering. Give her the impression that you can resist her charms and she will come rushing to you, to prove that she’s desirable. Aries women will never have to yearn for male attention.

They always get plenty of it, but inside they will be waiting for the one they cannot have. An Aries woman can survive even the toughest of circumstances alone and has the ability to come back even after the most gruesome tragedies. She can play the role of a female perfectly and, at the same time, can do everything that a man can do. If you have managed to subdue her aggressive drive, you will be treated to a woman who is full of optimism and has such faith in future that can uplift your mood also.

An Aries female does not like flattery. You should be sincere while complimenting her. Over-sweetness and too much closeness can make her run away, but she doesn’t want you to be too detached also. You’ll have to maintain that delicate balance and still keep the romance alive. Once she has committed to you, she will be extremely sentimental and very loyal. Don’t dominate an Aries female and don’t let her dominate you. Either of the extremes, she will not be able to tolerate. Give her reasons to be proud of you, but do not forget to praise her for her talent too. Her expectations are too high, but she will also give you double in return.

She is very possessive and love is something she can never share. She can be very jealous even at the slightest of suspicion. In case you have a female secretary, it is better to bid her good bye right now. If an Aries girl gets hurt, she will become as cold as the ice in your fridge and this behavior may last an entire lifetime. She is generous to the faults of her loved ones and it is better not to criticize them in front of her. On the other hand, if you are good to her, she will be extremely kind, tender, loyal and supportive.

You will get plenty of reasons to be jealous when you are with an Aries female, since she is more comfortable with men than women. However, don’t be suspicious of her, she would be really hurt. She is possessive, but she doesn’t like to be possessed. She wants her freedom and your complete trust. Remember, if she’s committed to you, you have no reasons to doubt her loyalty and sincerity. An Aries woman is much too truthful to be involved with two people at the same time. She will first break up the relationship that is not working.

She is extremely passionate and believes in forever-lasting relationships. Though, this leaves her disillusioned many a times. She will never play games with you and is incapable of deceit. An Aries girl is nothing if not simple, innocent and very emotional. Maximum chances are that she will continue her career even after marriage. She loves challenges and believes in miracles. Though it sounds a little freaky, but miracles do happen in her case. Just like a typical Aries, she never learns from her mistakes and is likely to fall in the same hole again.

For her love means sharing and that means sharing everything, right from her emotions and checkbook to your bank account. Always respect an Aries woman and never try to dampen her zeal, or she will be hurt. Though she tries to show that she is very strong, she is as innocent and as vulnerable as a baby. Be there to comfort her when she runs up to you after being disappointed with the world. If you stand up to her when she comes to you like this, you will never ever lose her. An Aries female will never forgive you if you fail to fight for her.

In return, she will always be there with you, even if she has to go against the whole world. She is not the one to feign illness, but if she is really ill, be there to care for her. She is quite extravagant and giving her the debit cards will mean an empty bank account. She will be a caring mother, who makes no unnecessary fuss and sparks children’s imagination. An Aries girl has a bad temper, but it will go away as quickly as it came and leave no grudges behind. She is a complete woman, who gets hurt easily and is totally innocent. Though she is a little impulsive and bossy, she will give you complete security, fight against the world for you and be yours forever!

Taken from here.

I Look To You

This is a new song from Whitney Houston, the extraordinary woman. I heard that she got troubles in her marriage. Finally, now she’s coming back and show to the world if she has the power to keep going and moving on.

I do the same, I look to You.. Thanks for making the storm more beautiful to be heard, Whitney.

As I lay me down, heaven hear me now.
I’m lost without a cause after giving it my all.
Winter storms have come and darkened my sun.
After all that I’ve been through
Who on earth can I turn to?

I look to You.
I look to You.
After all my strength is gone, in You I can be strong
I look to You.
I look to You.
And when melodies are gone, in You I hear a song.
I look to You.

About to lose my breathe, there’s no more fighting left.
Sinking to rise no more, searching for that open door.
And every road that I’ve taken lead to my regret.
And I don’t know if I’m going to make it.
Nothing to do but lift my head

I look to You.
I look to You.
After all my strength is gone, in You I can be strong
I look to You.
I look to You.
And when melodies are gone, in You I hear a song.
I look to You.

My levees are broken
My walls have come
tumbling down on me

The rain is falling.
Defeat is calling.
I need you to set me free.

Take me far away from the battle.
I need You.
Shine on me.

I look to You.
I look to You.
After all my strength is gone, in You I can be strong.
I look to You.
I look to You.
And when melodies are gone, in You I hear a song.
I look to You.

Pray